Hello again. It’s been a long time and there’s no excuse, so I’ll get right to it.
I am always wishing someone would simplify what they’re learning, that makes their life in general just a little easier. I can pore over as many articles about productivity, efficiency and piecing together my own brand of contentment as I want, but I am an application girl. A simple application girl. Emphasis on simple. Please.
They say be the change you want to see in the world. This blog probably isn’t what “they” (whoever they are) are referring to, but whatever. Onward.
#1 Walk whenever you can.
We all know we should exercise. We also probably don’t do it. Enough, anyways.
I’m not going to use that phrase: “You only have one body.” I’m going to go out on a limb (ha ha ha) and say that you know this. But, unless you have a few kids or a condition, I will suggest parking a little farther away from store fronts, instead of stalking eco-bag-laden humans as they return to their vehicles, and fighting it out with other hulk/smash holiday drivers. No angry faces, no quick-reaction blinker fingers, no waiting and being outmaneuvered, no walking into the store and being so upset that you forgot why you were fool enough to leave the safety of your house. I’m kind of kidding, but really. Distancing myself from parking lot mayhem remains one of my most cherished choices. Also. It forces me to walk just a little farther and use My One Body.
Do something good for humanity. Park in the boondocks.
#2 Buy generic.
First of all, it’s cheaper. But the second benefit is much, much bigger.
The paralysis of choice is problem enough when it comes to careers, dating apps and holiday opportunities, without being paralyzed over things that really don’t matter. Take tooth care for example. Yes, tooth care.
Should I get the tooth whitening with enamel strengthening? Or the anti-cavity and enamel strengthening? Is that even possible? Or the whitening with anti-cavity, or all three? But what if they interact differently? And what about flavor? Fresh Mint, Peppermint, Totally Dateable Mint or Mother Russia Vinter Mint? Pros and cons? Or, serious question: Should I stop brushing altogether and get wooden teeth like founding father George Washington?
When you buy generic, you save money and preserve your sanity. There are just way fewer generic options. I’d like to think they only copy the ones that are purchased often, which hopefully means they work, which hopefully means that I’m getting the one that will help me the most anyways. For less. It takes me all of a minute to find it and almost none of my choice-making fuel is used.
#3 You don’t have to be in the loop all the time.
You really don’t. You don’t always have to know what’s happening, to everyone, at all the times, in all the places. You don’t have to be the one that gives the updates, shares this or that prayer request, or slips in a Mention-of-Your-Involvement-in-this-Very-Important-Matter (as humbly as possible, obvi). Unless you are actual, real life, regular-check-in friends with someone, you also don’t have to feel guilty for having to be told that they got into a fender-bender or that their dog contracted malaria. Once you find out about a situation or a way to help, act accordingly and with total honesty. But don’t go around gathering information, covering bases and hoarding nuggets of info, like you’re preparing for hibernation. Like a squirrel. Don’t be a squirrel.
And, before ya feel judged, I’ve done this my whole life. Or, at least, since I discovered that Knowing Things made me socially valuable. It’s subtle. It’s ugly. It’s real. I’m sorry.
For those of you who are mature and see right through this habit, please accept the following, bizarre explanation: I wasn’t (necessarily) trying to lord my knowledge of a situation over you, though there was that. It was more about the fact that I was so insecure, I had to. I had to let you know that I knew something, because I needed to bounce my person-hood off of you to make absolutely sure that I existed. *so many problems* This sounds dramatic. It is dramatic. It’s also 100% true. And I think we’re all capable of this, in differing degrees and at
different vulnerable times in our lives.
So, lest no one else has told you, or you’ve forgotten, or (like me) you sometimes regress, let me be the one to remind you: You don’t have to play this game anymore. It’s okay to be out of the loop. Heck, it’s relaxing out here.
You can still have meaningful relationships. And you still matter regardless.
Thanks for reading. 🙂